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| Mrs. Grace Ifiok |
Specifications (Spec) implies stating a precise requirement for products. It is a set of requirements defining an exact description of an object or a process.
We all have our spec. Anyone who is going to marry has the kind of person he/she wants and wants to spend time and Life with.
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For example, if you walk into a shop to buy a phone you wouldn't just take any phone given to you. This is because you already have in your mind the kind of phone you want to buy, ranging from the battery capacity, the ROM, the RAM, screen size etc.
So, there are things also to be considered when looking for a life partner.
Some when they see a beautiful lady, they will say that's my spec, and just to know, looking for your spec. goes beyond beauty, watch out for the character, ability to exercise self-control, respect, patience, temperament, honesty, comfortability etc.
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Seeing him as your spec isn't a guarantee that he is seeing you as one.
You might Like him because he is tall and has a pointed nose. Meanwhile, he might not like you because you have a flat nose.
So, it boils down to knowing what you really want.
1. Check if the person is honest in his/her dealings.
2. Find out about the person's family.
3. Comfortability (Peace).
4. Look for a person with vision.
5. Look for a person with Discipline and self-control.
Most times people make mistakes in choosing their spouse.
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Sometimes we get attracted to the container (Person's physical appearance or beauty) not minding there is more to know about that person beyond beauty.
When you find a bad character in a person during courtship treat it and not say all will be well when we get married, dear that's the biggest mistake you will make in that relationship, treat it while still courting so, that if you no fit, you tell am "brother or sister this one I no go fit do am oh!"
A character like we know is like pregnancy, you can't hide it.
You have to be sensitive, try your best to stay true and not deceive him with high heels and a long gown to make him believe that you are tall.
Both Individuals should stay real.
When you meet the right person you will know.
A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.
A compilation from Assemblies of God, 91 Nelson Mandela Youths Fellowship.
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